Today one of my friends was dress coded for her bra strap showing and so she wrote on the gym shirt that they gave her. It reads “Dress Code: promotes the objectification and sexualization of young bodies, blames the wearer for the onlooker’s perceptions/actions, perpetuates rape culture, and is bullshit” On the back she wrote “You can’t shame me for something I’m not ashamed for”. It was really cool seeing all of the people’s reactions who saw it and I thought what she did was pretty cool.
This is the best, most succinct way I’ve ever seen anyone put this. Rock on.
The bitterness you see in a guy when this happens is such a reflection of their resentment for women who aren’t interested in them. Being an actual decent ‘nice’ guy/person means accepting that women will want people that aren’t you, and that its a valid option undeserving of negative judgement or bitterness.